eh
Last night, that was me. the two other wheels were men. they didn't talk all night about sports or politics--both of those conversations i could have participated in. instead they talked about housing prices in SoCal and intellectual property as it relates to computer games/music/movies.Needless to say, I felt like a guy: watching the game (sox vs yankees) while the other two talked about stuff uninteresting to me (intellectual property, housing prices in SoCal, etc) much like a new boyfriend who is meeting the girls friend's friend for the first time and tehy sit around talking about shoes or gossiping about their other friends.
I know officially feel bad for males everywhere that have to suffer through anything like this. Obviously my friend wanted to hang out the other night, I gave him an opportunity to back out ("If you need to cancel, that's cool, I completely understand friends coming into town, don't worry about it.") Gdawg refused to cancel under the premise, "if you don' t mind him tagging along if he gets in on time, let's still get together."
Long story short, it was one of the worst nights I've ever had. I didn't want to be rude to Gdawg or his friend (socially awkward nerd) but I wasn't interested in what they were talking about and made no effort to include me or talk about anything I was interested in. Plus, the friend was cheering for the yankees for the pure joy of seeing me get upset. He's not a fan of either team, but just because I was cheering for the Sox he choose the opposite team. It's cute when a girl does that to a guy, but not so cute when a married nerd does it to a normal (read: semi popular) girl. It'd be one thing if I was into him and his cheering was in jest, but it was a bit more mean spirited than that.
We said good-bye and all I got from Gdawg (a guy I've had a friend-crush on for almost 2 years now) said "well see ya. Let’s try and get together before I leave [for good] for Cali but if not, see you when you come to visit" and a quick, one handed hug. That's it. A two year friendship is coming to an end (at least in the physical sense, we'll continue to email, but that'll dwindle down once he starts as a first year associate at big law firm, inc.) and all i get is a 'see ya'. Obviously the friendship meant more to me than to him. Was it because I had a crush on him? Yeah, that probably had something to do with it, but still. Two years, great DC memories and a "see ya".
whateva. He'll probably be married within ~2 years to some good Christian who wouldn't swear like I do or drink like I do. Eh. Good luck with that.
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this little nugget just in:
To: C$ + department staff
From: KE [coworker]
Re: staple remover
Good morning,
If you borrowed the staple remover from the workroom, please return it. Thank you.
KE
is anyone else having flashbacks of The Office
Milton: Excuse me, I believe you have my stapler...
posted by C$ @ 9:47 AM
5 Comments:
1. Anyone who roots for the Yankees for any other reason than New York roots should be punished severely.
2. 2 years is a lonnnnng time to have a crush with no results
1. i agree. no further discussion needed.
2. i know, i know. it is a very long time, but the circumstances were always off. his 2nd year of law school was tough (as it always is) and he didn't have a lot of extra time. We'd just start to get close again and he'd be off for the summer only to chat every once in a while when he had the time. when he came back for 3rd year, i thought we'd have more time and all would be good, but that was not the case. in the fall we spent a lot of time together and i thought things were progressing nicely (moving from friends to something more) but then, something happened. I’m not sure what “it” was, but it happened and we didn’t see each other until now (~6 months) even though we both live in the District. Whateva.
The other concern of mine was the fact that he is very religious and knowledge that he does not partake in (any?) sins of the flesh. I didn’t want to make a move and make him feel uncomfortable (I was concerned that even a decent kiss might not be cool with him). Plus we were friends and making the jump from friends to more can be tricky.
Additionally he would do stuff to piss me off. Gdawg is a nice guy. One that you would think would never ever hurt you. But when he’d pull a move that could be classified as a “guy move” (not calling, not following directions, etc) I’d get frustrated with him, “How could Gdawg do that to me, he’s sooo nice?” Last night’s example of his interaction with me is a key example.
But long story short, yes you are right. 2 years is a v. long time to have crush on anyone and have it go no where. Even worse is when the crush ends with a “see ya later.”
"Plus we were friends and making the jump from friends to more can be tricky."
Don't I know it. I have to say it tends to end badly, too. I was good friends with a girl I developed feelings for and it all fell apart. These days I can't be in the same room as her without being disgusted - see most of the story here if you're interested.
Just read your post, wow, sorry man. i apoligize for my gender right now :)
what ever happened to FF? did you guys mend your fences or is she still werid?
I have a couple of guys friends that I think like me *that* way or like me a little more than I like them. I do my best not to fuel any flames b/c it's just not fair. i DO NOT say "if only i could find a guy like you..." but usually the "you" i'm speaking to, i'm not attracted to.
it's a tough bridge to cross, and i'm impressed that you attempted, even if it resulted in a crappy outcome.
yulWe attempted to mend our fences but that didn't work out. A few months after the wedding, we had our final falling out - or so I thought. She IMed me with some nonsense after a meeting for my soccer league and we had it out then and there and somewhere in there she said "I guess I was wrong about us reconciling" -- this was 4 months later.
...now I had no intentions of reconciling, but she evidently did, despite not having reached out to do so in 4 months. I told her "To be honest, after that I didn't have the desire to reconcile." - and that was essentially the end of it. I still see her on the field but I don't speak to her unless she speaks to me first, and even then I don't have much to say. She's just another person to me, I have no common courtesy to offer.
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